The feeling is not irredeemable, here are some useful tips that can help.
By Nabi Raza Abidi
The feeling of loss and hopelessness is very common. This feeling leads to low productivity, low motivation, job loss, loss of relationships and more. Having no anchor in life often leads to an unfulfilling life.
One way to remedy this problem is to find meaning and set a goal that is larger than yourself. The goal must not be grandiose but reasonably possible to achieve. Every incremental step towards this goal will give you a dopamine boost, courage and the will to continue on in life. What I am saying here is obviously easier said than done, but I hope that the following five pointers may be of use:
1) Do not keep your mind idle, feed it with knowledge both from books and audio.
2) Exercise and eat right. Without a healthy body, your mind will not reach its potential.
3) Find an inspirational role model who was in a tougher situation than you but managed to succeed. Here reading biographies can be very useful.
4) Set a plan and a schedule for yourself. Even if little, make sure your efforts are persistent.
5) Keep up with your relationship with Allah and your duties to Him. In order to keep this up, always find ways to be grateful to Him and make sure to give charity to those who have less than you and Allah will open doors that you thought were impossible to open.
If you manage to anchor yourself properly in the world, you will find that with the peace of mind that being anchored grants, your quality of life and work will improve and you will see a change both in your career and in your relationships.
Nabi Raza Abidi
Resident Imam of the SABA Islamic Center
San Jose, California